Tuesday, 31 March 2009

Am I a robot?

Lately, I am feeling tired. Maybe because of the kids, I am not sure.

Yesterday, I have to monitor Amni's school works. She got tonnes of it, since last week we are on holiday. And she finished everything by 11 p.m. Last Monday, it was Fawwaz's turn, he took 2 hours to finish his school works.

I am not sure, but I think most mommies will feel the same as me. It was not easy to keep the house spotlessly clean all the time. My daily routine would be picking up the toys and books scattered around the house. When I came back from the office, I was exhausted to do the things that I am suppose to do. Basic daily chores include laundering clothes, prepare or buy foods for the kids, ironing and prepare the kids' bags to the nursery. I am sure for most people, that's not a lot, but it was surely exhausting.

My TV time? Consider it was non existance. I am not a follower of any TV series. I have ditched my favourite series a long time ago, Lost and Heroes. I do not watch any news. My kids' TV time was around 9 p.m. on Cartoon Networks.

Fahri has a habit of breastfeeding while I folded the clothes. Yes, you read it right. I considered it my multitasking time.

So when people commented that I do not take care of the plants out of my house, I am also grateful for the weather nowadays. I just hope for the rain to water the plants.

Even when I am tired, I will make sure that I folded and washed the clothes for the day. If I do not do it, then the piles keep getting bigger and bigger. I am sure some husbands take it laidback, but I don't like the fact that the women has to do all the house chores.

Weekends, if we are going out, I will make sure that I have wash all the clothes before we can move anywhere. I hate it when I get back from somewhere, and I was tired, but the clothes piled in the washing machine.

I do not want to generalise men, but haiyoo.. when it comes to dust around the house, they simply do not notice it? Excuse me, did you see the dust near your brand new TV?

With Fahri having eczema, I have to ensure that I cleaned the house on weekend (I mean vacuuming, mopping, or washing the toilet). I have to wash the sofa covers by this weekend, since I keep delaying it (and the sofa covers has colour pencil marks from the 3 kids). It also has been a week that I noticed Fahri coloured the kitchen tiles and I used WD-40 to clean it yesterday (but still, the mark is still there. Guess I have to brush harder).

My me time? Sometimes I heard the motivational speaker said "You should allocate some time for yourself", but hey, it was hard to find the time for myself! I do want a spa or facial!!!!!! Or just a dinner with my hubby at some posh restaurant (without the kids, please).

Hmmmm.....

P/S: To Nadnye, sorry I don't do tags much. I have tonnes pending from Kak Ina and quite a few from my friends.

Friday, 20 March 2009

I need to exercise!

My last pair of sport shoes was bought in 1996 for the price of RM 18 at Carrefour Subang Jaya, by my dad. He bought it because my mom told him, that my old school shoes that I used for PE was torn. I was grateful for that pair of shoes, since I used it till year 2002 (which was coincidently the final year of my university's life).

After I got married, the shoes was nowhere to be seen. So of course, my type of exercise is considered non existence except strolling around in the park with my kids.. Hehehe

Since my hubby will be transferred to another office location, he want to start exercising in the morning. I found out that most sport shoe outlets do not carry many choices for women. And to justify myself to start exercising, let me drool first on the sneakers by Skechers. I just found out the only Skechers sale ever in Malaysia was early last year (Drat!).

So.. let start drooling girls...

My.. my.. what a wonderful natural brown colour


Or should I go for a pink sneakers?

Or this ladylike coffee coloured sneakers?

Owww.. this one is multiple use (office, outdoor, home.. you name it)

Wednesday, 18 March 2009

Past Present: It was a miracle of sorts that I beat the odds...

By A. Kathirasen

Nor Amalina Abd Rahman, who scored 12 As in the Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia examination though ill with cancer

WHAT a score. No, I'm not talking about Manchester United beating Inter Milan 2-0. I'm referring to the 2008 Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia results.

A total of 6,277 students scored straight As in all subjects. This is an improvement over 2007 when the figure was 5,060. Last year, 1,676 students scored iA in all subjects compared with 892 in 2007.

What can you say about the tenacity and time-management of Nik Nur Madihah Nik Mohd Kamal, the daughter of a fisherman? She became the top scorer with 20 As, and certainly deserves praise. The Sekolah Menengah (Agama) Maahad Muhammadi Kota Baru student scored 19 1As and one 2A.
Nur Madina stands as yet another beacon to the fact that poverty is not an excuse for not being able to achieve success.

And what about Mohd Shafiq Sahdon, Nor Amalina Abd Rahman, and Aghilan Narayanan?

Shafiq of Sekolah Menengah Sains Kluang, Johor, has impaired vision. But he but saw the light to score 12 As.
Aghilan Narayanan of SMK Jalan Bukit, Kajang, is deaf. But he heard the call of the future and scored 11 As.
Nor Amalina visualised the joy of getting As and drove the pain of the big C into retreat. She got 12 As.

It feels good. For, there is no better nourishment for the soul than such heart-warming stories.

And who can forget Nur Amalina Che Bakri who scored 17 1As in the SPM examination in 2004? That year, 4,410 students scored straight As, with 662 scoring 1A in all the subjects they sat.

In 2002, Yap Sui Lin of SM (P) Kuen Cheng, Kuala Lumpur, became the first student in the country to get 16 As, 15 1As and one 2A.

Compare this with the 1998 results: only 65 students scored the highest (at that time) score of 10 A1s -- higher than the figure for the previous year, when 50 students secured 10A1s.

In 1991, the perfect score was nine A1s, and 20 students were feted for this achievement.

It would, therefore, appear that Malaysian students have made great progress. Or, at least, more are doing better.

But there is a downside to this hunt for academic excellence. It leaves many students, and especially parents, disappointed, even ravaged. Children are rushed into adulthood.

Remember N. Hemanathan of Johor? The boy who had scored five As in his UPSR and seven As in his PMR examination, committed suicide in March 2005 when he got four Bs and five Cs in the SPM examination.

This preoccupation with high academic achievement begs the question: where is our education system heading? And it calls for reflection on the part of parents.

I am reminded of the parable of a pandit, or learned man, who knew his scriptures and had exceptional knowledge. One day, while crossing a river, he engaged in conversation with the boatman. He asked if the boatman knew the Vedas, the holy scripture of the Hindus.

No, replied the boatman. "A quarter of your life has been wasted," declared the pandit.

He drew the same answer when he asked if the boatman knew the six systems of Hindu philosophy. "Another quarter of your life has gone," said the pandit.

"Do you, at least, know the Mahabharata or Ramayana?" asked the pandit. "No, Sir," came the nonchalant reply."

My dear man, three-quarters of your life are gone," said the pandit, disdainfully.

Just then, the river became choppy and water entered the flimsy boat.

The boatman asked: "Learned Sir, do you know how to swim?"

"No, I don't," replied the worried pandit.

"Well then, I am sorry learned Sir, but your whole life is gone," said the boatman, before diving into the river to swim ashore.

Book knowledge is desirable, but life knowledge is crucial. Isn't it time for a better balance? Isn't it time more life was put into our children's education?

Thursday, 12 March 2009

Excuse me, am I bothering you?

"Tengok Aida tu, dia bukan pandai pun buat ni.."

Have you ever been in my situation of being gossiped behind your back before? I think the answer would be yes?

I have been working for nearly 7 years. I am immune to bad mouthing people said about me. Even though I have been in this office building for nearly 5 years, I am a nobody. People do not know me and some people even asked me, "Are you new here?" (hehe). The fact is, I don't mind, I prefer to be a lone ranger rather than being one of those people who bad mouthed other people during their leisure time.

Being someone in my place is not easy. If you put your heart on your sleeve and you do my job, I think you will resign easily. Because of my immune status, considering the back biters are people under me, or above me, or just the same level as me talks about me behind their back, I am OK with it. I have been in much worse situation, where people among the highest level in our company talked about me in unpleasurable manners. Oh yes, I was in the 'hall of fame' between the HR people at that time. For me, the pressure was huge, but I did survive, eh?

So, when someone comes to me and said they have been gossiped behind their back, I was the one who have to motivate them back. My rules are easy, if you are doing your job, you do not have to care what people says about you.

As for me, I cannot easily spill out my emotion with the people surrounding me. I have to go back home, and talk about it with my hubby. That would be a relief! But actually, in real life, it is not easy for me to talk about it, even back at home. What is the use of talking about something or someone else if I am also not perfect?

Yes, there are times when I DO gossips. But I would blame myself back..

I am the one who choose which mood should I be in, whether happy or sad. Should I be bothered when people gossiped about me behind my back?

"Islam considers backbiting the equivalent of eating the flesh of one's dead brother. According to Muslims, backbiting harms its victims without offering them any chance of defence, just as dead people cannot defend against their flesh being eaten"

A very wise choice of word from Mr. Wiki, indeed..

Friday, 6 March 2009

My First Letter 'A'

Kak Ina & Yati tagged me (Yati, aku nak nama aku huruf A, ngelat aa susah nak start with N.. ngehehe :P)

The rules:It's harder than it looks! Copy to your own note, erase my answers, enter yours and tag twenty people.Use the first letter of your name to answer each of the following questions. They have to be real nothing made up! If the person before you had the same first initial, you must use different answers. You cannot use any word twice and you can't use your name for the boy/girl name question. Have fun! Don't forget to post it!

1. What is your name: ***** Aida
2. Four letter word: Atap?
3. A boy's name: Amin
4. A girl's name: Amni
5. An occupation: Accountant
6. A color: Azure
7. Something you'll wear: A blouse (aci..aci)
8. A food: Ayam goreng!
9. Something found in the bathroom: A pipe.. ngehehehe
10. A place: Alor Star
11. A reason for being late: Accident
12. Something you'd shout: Adoi!
13. A movie title: A Walk to Remember
14. Something you drink: Air kosong (hahaha)
15. A musical group: ....
16. An animal: Ant
17. A street: Abdul Rahman (Jalan TAR)
18. A type of car: Aveo
19. The title of a song: A New Beginning

Wednesday, 4 March 2009

Pregnancy tag

Tagged by Ira

1. Was your first pregnancy planned?
Yes
Since I got another 2 kids..
2nd pregnancy - Unplanned (rezeki Allah nak bagi.. alhamdulillah)
3rd pregnancy - Planned, tapi terawal keluar, ingat end of 2007

2. What was your second choice name for your opposite gender name?
1st baby - Talhah Fawwaz
2nd baby - F... Aisya
3rd baby - Fakhira Aisya

3. What were your reactions?
1st baby - Suami melompat :P
2nd baby - Aik, terpregnant?
3rd baby - Allah bang, camna ni.. kan nak gi haji (yelah, mengandung 5 bulan pergi Makkah tau!)

4. How old were you?
1st baby - 23 (hiks hiks)
2nd baby - 24
3rd baby - 27

5. How did you find out you were pregnant?
Late period and UPT test

6. Who did you tell first?
DH

7. Did you want to find out the gender?
1st baby - Definitely.. tapi boleh main cak-cak sebab songsang. So sampai bersalin tak tau which gender
2nd baby - Yes
3rd baby - I tot I want a surprise. Sekali Dr Rahman scan, "Nampak bird dia tak?" (tak sempat nak inform doc nak surprise!)

8. Due date?
1st baby - 1st day of Syawal (20hb??? November 2003)
2nd baby - 3rd week of Ramadhan (14hb??? November 2004)
3rd baby - 15hb??? March 2007

seriously I forgot

9. Did you have morning sickness?
NOPE for all 3

10. What did you crave for?
1st baby - Pizza, pizza, pizza
2nd baby and 3rd baby - NONE

11. Who/what irritated you the most?
Asyik kena gi toilet jerr

12. What was you first child’s gender?
Girl
2nd baby - Boy
3rd baby - Boy

13. Did you wish you had the opposite sex?
No

14. How many KG did you gain throughout the pregnancy?
1st baby - 26/27 kg
2nd baby - 10 kg
3rd baby - 13 kg

15. Did you have a baby shower?
1st baby - Aqiqah di surau untuk student tahfiz pondok
2nd baby - Aqiqah masa balik Kelantan
both memang takde majlis bagai

3rd baby - Ada majlis.. maybe sebab lahir takde event Syawal/Ramadhan yang terdekat

17. Did you have any complications during you pregnancy?
None

18. Where did you delivered?
1st baby - Ampang Puteri Specialist Hospital
2nd baby - Tawakal Hospital
3rd baby - Tawakal Hospital

19. How many hours were you in labor?
1st baby - None (c-section)
2nd baby - 7 hours
3rd baby - 5 hours

20. Who drove you to hospital?
DH

21.Who watched you give birth?
1st baby - A team of nurses, Dr Fauziah & Dr Chris
2nd baby - DH, Dr Rahman, 2 nurses
3rd baby - DH, Dr Rahman, 2 nurses

22. Was it natural or c section?
1st baby - C-sect
2nd baby - Natural
3rd baby - Natural

23. Did you take medicine to ease the pain?
Yes, 1st baby - general anasthetic (pengsan terus)
2nd baby - epidural
3rd baby -epidural

24. How much did your child weight?
1st baby - 2.9 kg
2nd baby - 3.0 kg
3rd baby - 3.3 kg

25. When was your child actually born?
14 November 2003
9 November 2004
3 April 2007

26. What did you name him/her?
Firzanah Amni
Fawwaz Amin
Fahri Ahmad

27. How old is your first born today?
Amni - 5 years +
Fawwaz - 4 years +
Fahri - 1 year, 11 months, 1 day (sebab ada ticker ok :P)

28. Would you do it again?
Maybe end of 2010

A beautiful hadith about reading al-Quran

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) said: 'When a man dies and his relatives are busy in funeral, there stands an extremely handsome man by his head. When the dead body is shrouded, that man gets in between the shroud and the chest of the deceased.

When after the burial, the people return home, 2 angels, Munkar and Nakeer (names of two special Angels), come in the grave and try to separate this handsome man so that they may be able to interrogate the dead man in privacy about his faith. But the handsome man says, 'He is my companion, he is my friend. I will not leave him alone in any case. If you are appointed for interrogation, do your job. I cannot leave him until I get him admitted into Paradise '.

Thereafter he turns to his dead companion and says, 'I am the Qur'an, which you used to read, sometimes in a loud voice and sometimes in a low voice. Do not worry. After the interrogation of Munkar and Naker, you will have no grief.'

When the interrogation is over, the handsome man arranges for him from Al-Mala'ul A'laa (the angels in Heaven) silk bedding filled with musk.

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) said: 'On the Day of Judgement, before Allah, no other Intercessor will have a greater status than the Qur'an, neither a Prophet nor an angel.'